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The Best First Message For Dating Apps

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What is the best first message for dating apps? On online dating apps, women are swamped with messages. It’s literally a whole bunch of dudes saying, “Hi, Hey, how are you doing?”

In fact, I once created an online dating profile of a woman just to see how many responses I would get. One of my friends built the profile for me so I could see it. And it was packed with dudes saying the same message. “Hi, Hey, hi, you’re beautiful. Hi, Hey…” all the way down. I got a couple of emojis of smiley faces with eyes that are heart shape, but that was the entire message.

I wanted to come up with a message that would really make you stand out from the crowd, something that’s very, very different, and that is called the emoji tic-tac-toe. 

Did you know that with emojis, you can draw an entire tic-tac-toe board? So if you think about it, you can basically just put a space, an eye, a space, an eye, and then you can have another space and then you can have like underscores and then you can have spaces in between them and between eyes and underscores.

Stand out with your first message: Emoji Tic-Tac-Toe

You can create an entire tic-tac-toe board. Now what’s great about this is you can take the first spot and you really want the first spot to be like the top left or the middle somewhere near the top. It actually shows up as these summarized text messages when they scroll through. 

What’s cool about it is that among all the typical “hi” and “hello” messages, they’re going to see this funky offbeat message. It almost looks like you’re typing in code. So they’re going to click on that message, because it’s the one that stands out from all of the others. 

When they do, they’re going to see that you have created an emoji tic-tac-toe board. You’ve taken your first move and you’re going to say “your move” with a smiley face.

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This first message will make her smile!

You completely stand out from the crowd. You’re not here trying to hit on them. You’re just here to try and play a game. People are far more likely to respond to it.

Better yet, they don’t even look at your profile yet. They just go straight into the game. Tic-Tac-Toe is a quick and easy game. It doesn’t get boring to do. They can cut and paste it. And then they can put their own response into the space. 

How to stand out from the crowd with your first message on dating apps

This is a much more unique way of starting a conversation. You’re definitely going to stand out in the inbox and then during the game or after the game, that’s when you can start using a text conversation to actually get to know the other person. 

Now, if you’ve looked at any of my other content, you’ll know that there are a lot of games I like playing during text conversation. And if you’ve started with a game, then it gets very easy to introduce those other games later that lend themselves towards shifting the conversation to a more intimate nature. So give it a go. Emoji tic-tac-toe is absolutely killer on a dating app. You’ll be shocked at how many people reply.

Give it a try and let me know what your results are like in the comments below

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